'Power of Mind' by Rashmi

Monday, January 18, 2010

Sex , City , Scavengers And Interpersonal Skills!



MAKING MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLE-INTERPERSONAL SKILLS-"WHAT IS IT"?

My Readers would definitely wonder, what actually has happened to me and what exactly the topic holds for them!'WHAT A VOLATILE TOPIC IT IS?'Would it be worth reading? To them I would like to say,"give a look then form your opinion?"

Lexicons, people and hundreds of different websites daily come up with different expressions meanings and audio-visuals of Interpersonal Skills! So many meanings-enough to leave anyone baffled, confused, perplexed amazed and leading them after all nowhere!

Whenever I am asked to speak on this topic I simply laugh it off or resort to some musings which might not at all be serious at times!

Communicating effectively,convincingly,charismatically oozing self confidence has become the latest trend which gives the requisite lift to our "LIFESTYLES" though it can however, sometimes strangulate the listeners! BUT SIMPLY TO BE IN THE CIRCLES OF LITERATES "they" wear an intelligent look on "their" faces!!! What not has been said and done but the stark naked truth is that even I sometimes though unwillingly, have resorted to "hardcore professional terms" with "worksheets", "feedback forms"etc..etc.. etc...

Now let us come to a "profession" which has been eyed with suspicion and negativity but which is using this skill so deftly from ages and ages to get millions of visitors daily!. Though previously "they" were mostly illiterates in the said profession due to their " birth factor" or were forcibly pushed into it!

With the passage of time however the scenario has changed. Then they were called "prostitutes"-after a little while "sex workers" and now of course "Escorts"-Giving "style" and "oomph" to the same work, say modernizing the same element!!! Or one can say packaging the age old ingredients in a new more vibrant,tantalizing,illuminating "wrap"!!!!

It can be said "they" have even superseded "Management Gurus" in the their "trade"! If this is the trade they have been taught, forced into or chose on their free will- At least they have been honest enough to show the whole world their brilliancy in it! They have generated or catered to the needs of UNLIMITED SCAVENGERS IN UNLIMITED CITIES from Las Vegas to Portugal, Mumbai, Kolkatta and to many more glittering cities-cities that never sleep-cities which go on with its style,fashion,affluence,oomph and few "dumb people" (which probably includes me too) are trying to inculcate "interpersonal skills" in even "dumber people"-this really makes me to laugh!


This is a skill gifted to "them" most naturally even when there were no means of concrete communication-like postcards ,telegrams,cellphones, internet, emails ,fax etc.But nobody tried to learn this art from them as most of the time they were and are treated as malignant cell of the society and our bureaucrats, politicians, news channels and other eminent people DURING THE DAY TIME were and are wasting their time and energy to eradicate them from the society lest they would become cancerous! HOWEVER IN THE NIGHTS, THE STORY HAS BEEN ALWAYS DIFFERENT!!! Many times "such people" have been caught red-handed enjoying "their" companies unashamedly to their fullest!

Whether all this is a crime or not I'm no one to decide! CRIME is that when such people run away from this NAKED TRUTH during day time and don't look into the pains or sources of the pain, of the people in this "trade" which have brought them into this business. And instead during "DAY TIME THESE WHITE COLLARED PEOPLE" cover themselves under a quilt of "FALSE RESPECT"!

Sex sells and will sell, no one can stop or do anything about it.The age old "taboo" has millions of buyers every day and every night! But this doesn't mean that I am agreeing to this network which at times is murky, gloomy, pervert, abusive and filled with lechers or rather SCAVENGERS who are ready to tear apart soul and body of anyone-yes I mean anyone .For such SCAVENGERS "perversion" is their religion! Hence society as a whole has to be extra attentive of these SCAVENGERS as anytime "this pervert network" can show its venomous fangs and sting innocent people on the name of cleaning dirt from the society, by implicating false charges on them-AFTER ALL, THEY ARE SCAVENGERS, AREN'T THEY"? So you see how the network works!!!!!Before anyone close to you knowingly or unknowingly falls into this heinous , murky trap- get alert!!

Here I would like to applaud INDIA GOVERNMENT WHICH TOO HAS COME TO TERMS WITH AGE OLD TABOO "SEX"-THAT IS WHY SAFE SEX HAS BECOME AN IMPORTANT FEATURE IN THE RECENT CURRICULUM OF CBSE BOARD EXAMINATIONS "IN LIFE SKILLS" section and it is better for the parents too, to come to terms with it and develop a better communication with their children and inculcate positive values which really is a difficult task when in their CITY a certain INTERPERSONAL SKILL is flourishing"- with the help of ever multiplying SCAVENGERS!

Reverting once again to the ongoing topic,I do no want to malign anyone or take anyone's name here but my readers would definitely be knowing many such persons.I here, however cannot stop myself from mentioning a name selling like hot cake few days back- TIGER WOODS-BUT I REALLY ADMIRE HIM!! THE WAY HE HAS TAKEN UP EVERY THING IN HIS STRIDE IS COMMENDABLE! Every human being in his or her life is at times get drifted or allured! Don't we know, "to err is to human". One whose "acts" are out is a philanderer, coquette or a culprit and one whose follies are tightly secured in a sealed "ALLADIN' GINNIE'S BOTTLE" is a "saint"! Actually I must say Woods's Interpersonal Skill IS WEAK!!!! Or he realised, SILENCE IS THE BEST CURE! As sometimes silence holds more importance than "eloquence"! THE LADIES,HOWEVER, TURNED OUT TO BE SMARTER IN THIS ENTIRE EPISODE!!!They made money like hell.In fact his divorce too is up till now the "costliest"!(but the recent news,however is that Woods's wife is calling off the divorce-lets see what happens!)

But is anybody speaking about the million dollars he has given to the earthquake victims of Haiti!!!If at all someone speaks, will say surely that he did only to cover up his image and make it straight!!!Imagine a wife not wanting to touch her husband but willing to touch rather grab his million dollars after divorce! Now this is my view-I do not want anyone to abide by or agree to it.One thing which I like most about my country is "Freedom of Speech and Expression"!which has made me to sit at my desk and put my up views so freely!

Talking of Interpersonal skills, let us take a more simple example of renowned characters "BRUTUS" and" ANTONY" from Shakespeare's play "JULIUS CAESAR". Can anybody deny Antony's charisma of oratory and convincing power? He was so impressive that his speeches not only made the Romans to go against their "idol", Brutus but the mob themselves set their CITY Rome ablaze, threw their own children in fire but avenged Caesar's death and "fall"! Did Antony ever visit any "coaching center" to learn "oratory skills-correct choice of words and refrains?", which even defeated the legend "Brutus's views" who was held in high esteem by the Romans!! Caesar's death was avenged by a mesh of powerful words used correctly and timely by Antony whose tongue worked as fuel in inflaming and instigating the mob!


Now let us leave and keep away all examples. Shouldn't Interpersonal skill be cultivated with little efforts with one's own strong will? I am not suggesting that one should not take help of Trainers, Coaches, Teachers but unless one has the grit, will power and enthusiasm to try, no one can hone or polish their skills-not even the person best at it! And once Interpersonal skill is shown-courage comes naturally-courage to brave and fight against all odds and evens in life.....enough courage to show these scavengers their real and true places.Shouldn't we all join hands and vehemently oppose the SCAVENGERS who slyly and cunningly flourish in our cities under false cover of respectable persons!


So we see how SEX in our CITIES is flourishing and SCAVENGERS are roaming about freely-without fear! So it is high time now we come to "certain terms" and be comfortable and make others comfortable respectively.AND YES SCAVENGERS CANNOT BE ONLY A MAN,IT CAN BE A WOMAN OR A WHOLE NETWORK-SO COME TO YOUR SENSES, AWAKEN YOUR MIND, BODY SOUL AND FIGHT AGAINST IT!
Rashmi.
(started writing on 18th Jan-finished by 25th)

21 comments:

Himanshu said...

Nice Thought Rashmi.....This curse is definitely their in our hypo critic society.....But would have liked 2 hear from ur end more about the solutions then the problem itself......as to how we can all at individual level help towards eradicating this garbage.

rashmi singh said...

First all i must thank u for following my posts so thoughtfully-but do u think this garbage can be cleaned ever-sex is a topic which is relished by all,so till it is healthy,its ok.but solution is only AWARENESS,CONSCIOUSNES ,BETTER COMMUNICATION, RIGHT ATTITUDE of MIND and LITTLE EFFORTS made by the ppl themselves because this network can never-ever end!u tell me did domestic violence end despite of so many laws?Its a beautiful feeling gifted to all creatures on this earth(which ppl don't accept easily)and is made inhumane and murkier by a few!!

Anonymous said...

thrz jst one wrd fr ur blogs ---"FAB"...u revealed d reality...diksha

vmiit09 said...

THE ARTICLE WAS GOOD HIGHLIGHTING THE AWARENESSS ABOUT THE ISSUE RELATING WITH INCIDENTS OF EARTHQUAKE IN HAITI AND THE JULIUS CAESAR TOO.NO 1 LOOKS INTO THE MATTTER & SO THE PROBLEM IS NOT SOLVED.HOW CAN IT B SOLVED MAAM ? NO ONE WANTED TO MAKE THEMSELF IN TROUBLE...........THE PICTS IN THE BLOGS R NOT SO APPROPRIATE TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM......... IF POSSIBLE ADD SOME MORE PICTS RELATED TO THE ISSUE. EVEN THE OTHER ARTICLES WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ERADICATE IT FROM SOCIETY.I HOPE THIS COULD ACT AS AN ASSET...........INTHE ISSUE.

rashmi singh said...

It can be solved with ur own efforts!!rules and regulations can only be a guideline but u and ppl like u can be a real help!this is an ever growing problem AND ONLY AWARENESS,GOOD+POSITIVE THINKING WITH COURAGE CAN SOLVE IT! i can't put MORE ILLUSTRATIVE PICS AS MY CONSCIOUS DOESN'T ALLOW!!!U CN CLICK ON THE PICS AND C A BIGGER SIZE OF IT IF U WANT-but anways thanks!when a work has got critics,it mean it is genuine!

@diksha-thanks for always appreciating my work!

Anonymous said...

Thanx ma'am 4 showing us the dark side of the SCAVENGERS!we knoe that u r going to delete the whole dirty site posted as comment to ruin this generation BUT UR POST HS MADE THESE SCAVENGERS ACTIVE AND REALLY WE HAVE TO BE AWARE OF THEM AS THY COUL BE FOUND ANYWHERE IN THE SOCIETY!carry on ur work ma'am v r with u:-)astha,ritika(10th)

Anonymous said...

truly!

Anonymous said...

That was a mind blowing topic u picked up. V r all with u to support u against these SCAVENGERS n we'll definitely succeed 1 day....
Ruchika

Anonymous said...

Thanx ma'am 4 showing us the dark side of the SCAVENGERS! we should join hands and try to remove the dirt from the society.

rashmi singh said...

Thanx to everyone who hv joined hands
wid me i hv deleted the 6th comment by some omg porn network as they could c "their" defeat somehow....

shalini said...

carry on rashmi-we r with u.u r a true person urself and noting will come in ur way i assure u but i ask all ppl giving cmnts in anonymous section 2 come up with their identities but if they r nt comfortable it is ok.rashmi u r a genuine person-beauty with brains!keep it up!!!!!!!

parul said...

ma'am i really enjoyed the way you have mixed SEX CITY N SCAVENGERS with INTERPERSONNEL SKILLS.....that was very thoughtful....
also i would like to mention here that being a girl i have to face this problem everytime i step out of "the safe area" of my home...reading this i am quite confident that everyone will stand up against the scavengers....atleast i definitely will....

PS In the section mentioning politics you could tell about the italian PM.....

Alokparna said...

My very loving ma'am, Yes , its so true, life becomes ugly when one runs away from TRUTH. And the harder one tries, the more pervert it gets. The moment one starts moving inwards, the illusions start fading away. All superficialities are merely illusions, aren't they? All ugliness, darkness in the society has been only because man has continued to avoid looking at TRUTH by using the cunning mind n the mind is nothing but the transient circumference, n one must penetrate to the centre to bring about an illumination, a transformation.
True interpersonal skills can develop only n only when one has learnt the knack of relating with oneself. My dearest ma'am, you are so very right in saying that these things cannot be taught. Only REALIZATION OF REALITY can help. LOVE is our reality n LOVE is what truly connects us with all. LOVE it is that illuminates n removes the darkness.

rashmi singh said...

Thanx
@shalini,for the adjectives!nd the care you hve shown.

@parul you are one of my brightest student who is not only confined to books but looks beyond it!definitely u r going to make it big in life nd ur approaching std 12 exams!my blessings are with you.moreover whatever examples you want to quote,feel free to do so!

@alokparna,you are too innocent but the world is not like you.we can definitely change the world with love but one has to be always on your toes!it is said "never trust a stranger" but i would like to make some amends-"never-ever trust anyone" in this materialistic world-we have to teach the future generation many new aspects of life and to be comfortable with words treated as "taboos"!!thanks for your valuable comment.do keep reading posts:-)

Anonymous said...

thnx ma'am for awaring us about these issues ,it was a rally ud topic 2 pick up.I really think that we all must join hands to vanish the scavengers of the city.V all r wid u.........v would succeed 1 day.
thnx a lot
-sanya

geetika said...

hello mam..dat was very very well written..dis is 1 issue or rather an evil,i should say which v d girlzzz can understand realy well..where der is so much encouragement,hope,success n opportunities awaiting 4 us..scavengers ruin it all..i dont know what is d solution 2 all dis but thank u 4 throwing light on such issues..i know dis will surely work..u simplyyy ROCK mam...!!!!...GEETIKA..!!

rashmi singh said...

Hi Sanya!
good work-ruchika told me that u informed her about the activities-i am really happy that u r in ur self a
positive network!

Geetika dear-I am sooo happy to hear from u after such a long time-gaurav must hv told u.if my ex-students back me up ,surely i'm going to rock!!!and my students always have loved me-u r a live eg.god hs blessed u with beauty and brains-i hope one day u'l be a forerunner to clear thisgarbage. D.U. girlzz r smart-keep the torch glowing!!

shivani said...

Rashmi,
i get ur drift and with u in this.yes we do need to be alert not only for what u mentioned but also to protect ourselves from being abused because SCAVENGERS do come in all forms and these degenerates have no qualms about gender/age.Feel sry for the state of affairs but yes we have to be vigilant and smart enough to react and take action when or if the situation arises.Do u get my drift?

Kushi said...

Brilliant thought... awesum writing..wats very interesting is the way the thought has been conveyed very simple yet so logically .. way to go ..

Anonymous said...

i read it n DIKSHA was correct
its FAB

AISH

Anonymous said...

DIKSHA was correct
actually the article was FAB
i actually opened a site other than fb(hehe)
AISH