'Power of Mind' by Rashmi

Friday, December 24, 2010

INSANE,SEXUAL,SICKENING -CROSS BOW CANNIBALISM!!!

 HE CAN BE ANYWHERE NEAR..BEWARE!!


A recent incident,just before the Christmas has shocked the people of Britain, when a Criminology Student,Stephen Griffith  who dubbed himself as "the crossbow cannibal" was jailed to life after he pleaded guilty on Tuesday 21st December 2010.
SOURCE:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/40765924/ns/world_news-europe/ 
 
Apart from what we read,Cannibalism or eating flesh is said to be a part of Indian Tantra, too,or is rather believed to be. The Aghori or Aghora, who consider themselves to be the denizens of the "charnel(burial) ground",command extreme reverence from rural populations as they are supposed to possess powers to heal and relieve pain gained due to their intense practices,are believed to consume the corpse of dead bodies.However majority Hindus  vehemently oppose this line of thought!
SOURCE:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aghori

Now Let Us See What Wikipedia Has To Say About Cannibalism
According to it, IT IS THE ACT OR PRACTICE OF HUMANS EATING FLESH OF OTHER HUMAN BEINGS.

SOURCE
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cannibalism 

Now let us read how Griffith was caught.Here is the detail :


"Griffiths was caught when a caretaker at the flats where he lived reviewed overnight CCTV recordings and saw horrific footage of Suzanne’s final moments - her running out of Griffiths’ flat with her killer in pursuit.
She was then seen being dragged along the ground by her leg by Griffiths before he shot her in the head with a crossbow.
When he was arrested Griffiths bragged he had eaten his victims’ flesh, adding: “That’s part of the magic.”
Family members sobbed as the prosecutor outlined details of the murders.

Judge Mr Justice Openshaw told Griffiths he would never be released from prison.
 HERE IS GRIFFITH'S CROSSBOW WHICH HE USED TO KILL HIS VICTIMS!
SOURCE:
http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/2010/12/21/self-proclaimed-crossbow-cannibal-stephen-griffiths-pleads-guilty-to-murder-of-three-prostitutes-86908-22798244/

WAS GRIFFITH'S SUPPOSEDLY SEX MAD MOTHER RESPONSIBLE?
Some have claimed that this was a ­reaction to the reported promiscuity of his mother, whose endless liaisons are said to featured alfresco sex in her back garden in full view of her neighbours.
But I believe that Griffiths’s ­violence stemmed more from his own chronic sexual inadequacy. By all accounts, he could not perform like a normal man.
His impotence seems to have brought out two frightening traits. One was to turn his anger on women, whom he could not ­satisfy.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/debate/article-1340980/Crossbow-Cannibal-Stephen-Griffiths-fame-obsession-led-serial-killer.html#ixzz1B1t45hl3

BUT IS THIS ANYTHING NEW?AN INDIAN INCIDENT!
But is this anything new?Have we forgotten the NITHARI KILLINGS OF INDIA?ACCUSATIONS,CHARGES, PUNISHMENTS BUT THE ACCUSED ARE STILL ALIVE AND WOULD BE IT SEEMS BE ALIVE TILL ALL THE  PENDING CASES WOULD NOT BE DECIDED AND BY THEN THE ACCUSED WOULD BE WELL ABOVE EIGHTY YEARS OF AGE OR SO.  SO TO DIE  AT THAT AGE OR NOT TO DIE ,WILL HARDLY HAVE ANY MEANING FOR THEM!
Read:
http://ibnlive.in.com/news/nithari-case-timeline-discovery-of-skulls-to-judgement/85154-3.html
Or Read Another Kind Of Cannibalism:
http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2011/01/honor-killing-honoreduk-or.html

SEXUAL OR SICKENING CANNIBALISM
Let us read an excerpt from the link below
http://www.newstrackindia.com/newsdetails/67334

"Earlier, Surendra Koli had confessed his crime in the recorded statement by CBI. It was also medically proved that Koli was suffering from necrophilia (urge to have sex with a corpse) and necrophagia (urge to eat the flesh of a body)."
 IT  IS SICKENING-HOW CAN A SANE MAN EVER HAVE A SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WITH A DEAD BODY? BUT KOLI DID!


PSYCHIATRISTS SAY-SEXUAL CANNIBALISM IS A SERIOUS,GRIEVOUS DISEASES WHICH REQUIRES EXTREME ATTENTION.THESE CANNIBALS DUE TO THEIR INFERIORITY AND OTHER KINDS OF COMPLEXES WANT TO SHOW THE WORLD THAT THEY ARE NO LESS AND ADHERE TO MEANS WHICH IN NO WAY CAN BE THINKABLE TO A SANE PERSON.
READ HOW THE SELF DUBBED CROSSBOW CANNIBAL ADMITTED HIS CRIME:
http://www.nypost.com/p/news/international/hooker_killer_suspect_creepy_court_EDLk5wM4Ya4PL8TkYnNJvN

Actually according to a famous Psychiatrist SEXUAL CANNIBALISM IS A SERIOUS SICKENING DISEASE where the person's neurosis, inferiority complex, sexual attractions, inadequacies and all insecurities seem to engulf his sexual development and does not not let his sexuality to develop positively.BY CONSUMING A PART OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AFTER RAPING HER ,HE GAINS A SUPREME POSITION,POWER AND CONTROL IN HIS IMAGINARY WORLD.ITS HIS ULTIMATE WAY OF POSSESSING AND HAVING CONTROL OVER HER! 
Recently in Delhi, A Software Engineer killed his wife and kept his dead body in fridge after cutting into pieces!
SOURCE:
The craziest thing is this in Japan,such people at times gain sympathy and are celebrated as intellectual,writer and artist ad let off easily after committing such crimes.AND THAT THERE ARE LADY CANNIBALS TOO!

SOURCE:
http://mindkandysinterracialdebateandrelations.yuku.com/topic/5084
COMING BACK TO CROSS BOW CANNIBAL

let us come back to the recent Crossbow Cannibal, Griffith,40, has admitted killing Suzanne Blamires,36, Shelly Armitage,31,  ad Susan Rushworth,43 at his Bradford home which he had turned a slaughterhouse,ironically like Surender Koli and Pandher of Noida(India).U.K.Court has however  is believed to rule out release of Griffith under any circumstance but who will get justice to the innocent victims of Nithari?

This is not a DRAMA TO BE VIEWED AND FORGOTTEN..A FINAL CURTAIN HAS TO BE DRAWN TO NAIL SUCH ACCUSED ROAMING FREELY IN OUR SOCIETY!

READ A STORIES OF MENTAL CANNIBALISM
: http://rrashmi211.blogspot.com/2009/08/oceans-of-loneliness-standing-near.html

Now The Same Link On Network18( connect.in.com ) too,CLICK: 

Sunday, December 19, 2010

SUPERSTITION, SPIRITUALITY ,SALVATION AND SEX.......CRAVING CARNATIONS


 This post is not against  any caste,community,religion or belief.Belief is one's own forte and no one has the right to interfere with it.I only wish to waken people from their intoxicated superstitious drowsiness ,removing clutters from their minds and making more space for positivity as there is no "wrong" from where one cannot return! WE ARE HUMANS AND HUMANS MAKE MISTAKES! SO LET US REALIZE ITS WORTH AND BE PATIENT TILL THE LAST AS IN THE END I HAVE EXPOUNDED HOW SEX SHOULD BE RELATED TO SALVATION!

 Salvation is the purest kind of penance. To remove the putrid deadly droplets stinking the souls,stagnating it literally,salvation is practised by people,so that,their minds rest in a comforter of peace and love! BUT THE BIGGEST QUESTION IS "HOW TO ATTAIN IT PIOUSLY?"AS WE ALL KNOW THE RITUAL TO REACH GOD HAS BECOME A TRADE-A trade where benefits are involved! A MATERIALISTIC MECHANIZED TRADE,SOMETIMES LACED EVEN WITH SUPERSTITION AND SEX! 
SALVATION according to Wikipedia is:
In religion, salvation is the concept that, as part of divine providence, God saves people, both:
       from biological death, by providing for them an eternal life (cf. afterlife).[1]
       from spiritual death, by providing divine law, illumination, and judgment.[1]



READ AND FEEL: http://rrashmi211.blogspot.com/2010/03/salvation.html

But are we following the above concepts OR these things are buried in Dictionaries only!

Surfing the net I suddenly came across THE TIMES OF INDIA'S Spirituality section by Debashish Chaterjee .The link and the excerpt from it is give below
 
On the path of salvation celibacy is not a prerequisite but a consequence – an effortless by-product of creativity. Celibacy is a kind of flowering of consciousness and not a moral given, as most sermons would have us believe. It is easier to cover a raging fire with a piece of cloth than to contain libido with sermons. A celibate is like an austere tree in winter that has seen the whole cycle of life from seeding to flowering and stands to rejoice as an enthralled witness in having completed the cycle of creation. The human consciousness scripts the whole journey from being the creatures of sex to the Creator Herself. The "fallen," swami, like any one of us, is somewhere on the path. I would just let him be..

I do agree to somewhat with Debashish but not fully as he has written,"The "fallen," swami, like any one of us, is somewhere on the path. I would just let him be".NO, Debashish NO...A FALLEN SWAMI IS ACCEPTED IF HE IS IN LOVE BUT WHAT IF HE FORCES, LURES OR MISLEADS OTHERS TO VENTURE OUT ON THE PATH OF SEXUAL FIRES FOR HIS OWN SELFISH ENDS! 

HERE IS A LIVE EXAMPLE OF IT! I understand what you mean by a "fallen swami"..a common being with very common desires and such desires should not be extinguished but what if that desire of someone burns your house,would you allow it?

SUPERSTITION,SPIRITUALITY,SALVATION AND  SEX-TRUTH MISLED
READ:


Excerpt from the above link

Sadhu baba linked to sex scandal; ashram ransacked


Bangalore: Within hours of a local news channels telecasting video footage of a self-styled godman Paramhamsa Nityananda allegedly indulging in sexual acts with two unidentified women, an enraged mob ransacked his ashram complex at Bidadi in Karnataka.
Though the 32-year-old godman was not present in the sprawling 29-acre ashram when mobs went on the rampage, smashing his portraits, banners, billboards and the reception office, the district police deployed additional forces to protect the devotees, including about 100 foreigners staying within the complex.
"We have deployed two platoons of the state reserve police numbering about 100 men to guard the Nityananda Mission and protect the devotees, as the people from the town wanted to lay a siege," Ramanagara district police superintendent S.B. Bhisanhalli told IANS.(NOW I DON'T THINK IN ANY WAY THE ACT IS PIOUS OR JUSTIFIED OF THIS FALLEN SWAMI)

Sex is an evolution and not a consequence but MAKE IT SURE ,THIS EVOLUTION IS POSITIVE AND EXPERIENCED WITH ONE WILLING OR IN LOVE-SEX WITHOUT LOVE CAN NEVER BE AN EVOLUTION-IT BECOMES RECREATION FOR THE PARTY FORCING HIMSELF/HERSELF ON THE OTHER.Even in a "state of marriage,a forced sex in any case cannot be evolution to reach the 'ULTIMATE UNKNOWN AND THE SUPERIOR".Yes I agree SEX IS ESSENTIAL INGREDIENT OF LIFE AND EVEN TO ATTAIN THE SUPERIOR MAN SHOULD NOT ABSTAIN FROM IT .


Sexual cravings should be beautiful and desires mutual.Even Lord Krishna experienced,savored and nurtured it but then it was  mutual.Read:

OR ONCE READ YOURSELF WHAT OUR RICH INDIAN LITERATURE (kamasutra) SAYS ABOUT  LOVEMAKING WHICH IS BEING MISUNDERSTOOD BY MANY!
  
TO REACH THE PINNACLE OF SALVATION MISLED SEXUAL EXPERIMENTATION IS NOT AT ALL REQUIRED! SEX IS AN ENCHANTING,EXHILARATING ,BEAUTIFUL FEELING CREATED BY GODS AND SHOULD ONLY BE A STEP TOWARDS REACHING SALVATION .....SATISFYING SOULS TO REACH ITS MAXIMUM.IT SHOULD NOT BE IN ANY WAY CRUEL AND CRUDE......

rashmi. 

Friday, October 29, 2010

Forgetting First Love-Who Is Asking To?

FIRST LOVE SYNDROME

The sun shone on the fine gravel of the beach and I saw a very distressed woman in her  early forties trying to suppress her "seething sadness".Now you can ask,"how can sadness be seething?" True sadness should be depressed and subdued, something simmering on  low flame, gnawing away the heart gradually ,so how can it be "seething"But, I think her "distressed situation" was seething as her body postures were not at all feigning her fidgety condition! Restlessness spurt from every mannerism of hers! Definitely,she wanted to talk-talk to anybody,even a stranger,but I was not ready to do so because after a tiring conference and satisfying string of events in my life ,I was in no mood to spoil my evening.So the best was to ignore her completely but somewhere in me,my compassion which I had so securely buried under a blanket of current happiness defied me and though I didn't want myself to get bugged but still shifted gradually near her with an inquisitive eye!


Muffling up her reddened face  in her large handkerchief,she looked up to me in despair and hope-despair,as she was quite convinced her life had been a waste-hope .....because, somewhere she thought, I would come,sit beside her and listen her woeful tales. I chided myself for being selfish for overlooking a person "who thought was totally out of repair",not paying heed to her needs!


The tale which she narrated was nothing new or devastating! She was in fact another one suffering from "not being able to forget first love " AHHH!!! How many people would be tortured by this syndrome! I think some take their past affairs as flings or simply a relationship which didn't work and move ahead in life positively,while few not so blessed,dwell in their pasts never look ahead towards all the opportunities life hold for them, always dwelling in it, dooming and shutting the doors of their minds and souls to shimmering rays trying to enter their doomed minds!


I moved towards her a little more convincingly and a little more comfortingly.The story which she narrated but was nothing new,only this that when almost she had reconciled with her situations, she had once again bumped into him accidentally  on the path of life!Now this too didn't seem to me very unusual,as I have come across many people who have been meeting and are friends to their ex!


True everything happens but here the lady seemed adamant not to forget her once short affair which still had great impact on her life,so much so that she wasnot able to concentrate on her home, her children! So I could perceive,she was equally connected to "her home and her children".This was a big respite as after few sessions,I could see, she could be fully cured!EMOTIONAL HEALING IS THE BEST HEALING! Her emotions were just like as depicted in the link below:



http://my.opera.com/Tearx/blog/2008/09/06/learn-to-forget-someone 


I  could see a ray of hope, as she was still attached to her family AND CONVINCED HER SOMEHOW THAT SHE WAS NOT THE ONLY ONE SUFFERING  from this feeling of rejection,loss and despair! Like her,there were many others or probably everyone in his/her life faces this "syndrome" but then why do we have to punish ourselves with a feelings of guilt,despair and rejection.Have we come on this earth only to face 'love syndrome" or there are other aspects of our lives too which need dire attention!

I asked her is she a "coward" or a "valiant?" She seemed baffled and could not get what I meant.I had to be more explicit and quoted Julius Caesar's lines,"Cowards die many times before death,the valiant never taste of death but once!".She seemed to be more puzzled-more baffled!Wiping her non stoppable tears she asked what I actually meant.And my answer was if she was ready to quit everything else in life  to dwell in a state of "REACHING NONSENSE"MOREOVER WHO IS ASKING HER TO FORGET HER FIRST LOVE? SHE  HAS TO HELP HERSELF TO OVERCOME HER PAST AND IF NOT LET THE BEAUTY OF IT FILL HER VERY VALUABLE PRESENT WITH THE  LINGERING FRAGRANCE OF HER PAST LOVE TO ATTAIN SOMETHING POSITIVE ,AS RUNNING AWAY FROM LIFE AND CRIBBING OVER WHAT CANNOT BE ATTAINED ANYMORE IS NOT THE SOLUTION!As life is not very kind and teaches each one of us something !Things seemed to seep into her rock like brain and I took a long breath of relief as I did not want the beautiful evening to slide into oblivion where I too was busy doing calculations of my life.............


However if readers want,they can visit the link below for first love experiences!

LET LOVE FRAGRANCE FUME..READ:
http://rrashmi211.blogspot.com/2010/11/fragrance-fuming.html


http://www.ivillage.com/first-loves-why-we-never-forget-them-0/4-a-283243

OR
http://www.reallove.com/about.asp

rashmi. 

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

RAGE OF THE FALLEN ANGELS-SATAN SNATCHES SEX!





RAGE OF THE SATAN
REAL MEN DO NOT RAPE!


"RAGE OF THE ANGELS", very beautifully etched the mesmerizing Jennifer Parker's , character. The power she had to win over and achieve her defined targets, though foul play too was involved!


But with the advancing time, I feel all such characters are now buried in pages of "bestsellers"  AND "RAGE OF THE FALLEN ANGELS" is  ruckusly ruling. The once angelic minds of people  are in grip of venomous SATANIC FANGS .Women and girls are still, continually, tormented, tortured, traumatized and bullied for their boldness.
read how friendship saves from bullies
http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/02/confidencecamarderie-and-cleopatra.html



Newspapers these days are abuzz with incidents which in any case can tear minds and souls of people apart but the present genre has definitely no time to delve in the dark graves burying in itself skeletons of shameful , lurid , pervert , inhumane tortures of lechers - heinous mental and physical killers , biting , shredding , pouncing  flesh of the woman they desire,subsequently charring their mental demeanor !Just as it happened of Iraqi Torture by the U.S. ARMY

"SNATCH  IF YOU DON GET", This ideology is currently prevailing amongst the common people-whether it be a job, position,exams and so on.Cut throat competition is making people bleed,driving them to the brink of madness.AND THIS COMPETITION SOMETIMES MAKES ITS  PRESENCE IN THE FIELD OF SEX TOO-IF "THEY" DON'T GET THE DESIRED, "THEY" "SNATCH",forgetting a moment of pleasure not only ruins the victim's entire life but their  own lives too as "sins never go unpunished" !
READ A STORY OF SEXUAL MANIAC: http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/12/insanesexualsickening-cross-bow.html 

Sometimes RAGE OF RAPE is purposely directed towards a community by other communities or "upper hands".Here is a raging example taken from the link below


http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/28454-operation-rape-sikh-women-shudhee-karan/

"But unfortunately, many Sikh women were also the target of the bloody thirsty Indian Security forces. Sikh women were ruthlessly tortured, not only physically but also mentally. They were used as tools to force the surrender of Sikh fighters who were their relatives and also as a means of humiliating families. When Sikh women were arrested with their husbands, the husbands were often forced to watch the rape of their wives. Rape was used as an interrogation tool"

RAPE AS AN INTERROGATION TOOL was even used during Iraq war,this cannot be denied.For more information visit:


http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/04/rape-and-rage-humans-or-animals.html


RAPES INCIDENTS HIDDEN:Many a times rape incidents are put under covers as the family doesn't want to put their "family in shame and tarnish their image"!The victim may languish in pain but VISIT A HEART RENDING REAL STORY OF MARITAL RAPE AND TORTURE:
http://rrashmi211.blogspot.com/2009/08/oceans-of-loneliness-standing-near.html


Here is another excerpt which highlights that sex is snatched not only for pleasure but is exhibited on women and girls to thwart them as well as their family for any offence which "they" think is objectionable!

When a group of tribal elders becomes the judge and jury and passes a sentence of gang rape against a young girl to shame her family, the outcome can only be inhuman. In June this year, in remote Meerwala village, 610 kms from the capital Islamabad, young Mukhtiar Mai wept and pleaded for mercy when she heard the verdict. But the 18-year-old was dragged into a mud hut and gang raped, while a crowd of a few hundred stood outside.
VISIT:
http://www.boloji.com/wfs/wfs084.htm

There are thousandths of such examples which is murkier than muck where friends too betray trust. INCIDENTS WHICH PROVE WE STILL ARE ANIMALS AND NOT HUMANS. INCIDENTS WHICH MAKE OUR HEARTS NUMB AND MAKE US BELIEVE IN "THE RAGE OF THE FALLEN ANGELS". SO AS HUMANS LET US COME FORWARD PUSHING OUR LURID THOUGHTS AWAY ,REMOVING THE BLOTCH FROM THE FACE OF HUMANITY !

Another Way Of Protest Is Like This:
SOURCE:
http://www.commondreams.org/headlines04/0719-03.htm  

READ SHOCKING TRUTH OF DATE RAPES AND DATE DRUGS:
http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/12/dating-rapesa-simple-truth-of-date.html 



Sometimes people resort to other unfair thoughts too Read
 http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/12/bed-buddies-or-friends-with-benefits-is.html


rashmi.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

STILLED LIFE-BLEEDING INCIDENTS-SURVIVING THE SUPERNATURAL.....

TO BELIEVE OR NOT TO BELIEVE? 
WHAT IS THE SCIENCE OF TANTRAS?

India once considered as land of superstitions,still has some reminiscences  of  Ruth Prawer Jhabvala's heat and dust ,wrapped in a blanket of mystery .Mysteries which still attract people to come and breathe here and seek peace,solace and discover new meanings of life.  


But the incident which took place with me shook the roots of my life and almost uprooted it.My educational background i.e. graduating from prestigious Carmel College and equally renowned schools like Notre Dame and Loreto Convent  never permitted me to venture or even think about the"relished unbelievable of human mind".

Due to some unavoidable circumstances,I always had to move places in India-in a way it was very traumatic as being an emotional person, it was very difficult for me to make friends again ,connect and adjust in a completely unknown environment, etching a place of survival....traversing this unavoidable journey, almost thirteen years ago I reached a small town, Moradabad in Uttar Pradesh-the town which could not boast of anything  but filth, dirt, and money.

The people there were mainly involved in Brass Businesses minting money, bragging about their lifestyles, though their palatial houses were situated in places where pigs would love to inspect day and night but yes the"items produced in their factories were definitely breathtakingly beautiful in contrast to their places of survival."

After a few days of my stay,in the heart of the city known as Civil Lines,I began to suffer from bouts of depression,which people thought was pure fabrication of my ever active and creative mind.But my plight did not stop here,I recurrently started falling sick and finally was down with "typhoid",which again was considered to be a very common ailment amongst Indians! So after all there was nothing which I was facing, new!

IS ANYTHING BURNING?
How can I forget the evening when I went berserk, searching for "the element" burning in my house and producing foul smell-I looked each nook and corner of my house but lo as nothing was supposed to be found-hence nothing was found.Now you may ask why am I making a statement like this?I am making such a statement because somehow the stories narrated to me by neighbors were now making ways into my mind....that a woman in the house in which I lived was burnt to death!Well no one was however able to tell ,who burnt her and exactly what had happened.But she died in the very house in which I was living was sure.


When my God-fearing superstitious neighbor Mrs. Kamboj, first told me about all this, I had simply laughed it away.But gradually my problems and pain increased leaving me to languish in a pool of extreme misery. My heart wanted  to consent to the stories heard but my educated,sophisticated mind just ruled out any such possibility of any spirit or "atma" harassing me.The smell of something burning, unbelievingly but true, however persisted in a stubborn manner in my house day after day hallucinating my existence and harrowed my family.I became unimaginably pale and weak-a rickety structure with sunken eyes and high fever which  would never leave despite the best of medication  provided.

IS ANYTHING BURNING IN YOUR HOUSE?
The final blow was given by the family which had come to live in the house next to ours.One fine evening,their fourteen year old boy came rushing,panting and literally barged into my house to inform that something was burning,and the obnoxious smell perforating had made their existence a hell!I assured him that everything was alright but the truth was that I was shaken out of wits and this finally pushed me to take a weird decision!


ARRIVAL OF THE SHABBY BABA OR TANTRIK

My official "chaprasi"(attendant)Nagina who was continually pestering me to get treated by a Baba of his village, had his way when I  asked him to call  the said Baba, as in any case,by hook or crook, I wanted to be fit ,wanted to defeat my maimed existence and once again stand on my feet.


The old dangerous looking Baba came late that evening clad in a loose sack like brownish dress with a "jhola" (cloth bag),slung over one of his shoulders.He gave me an intent serious look and  a streak of spontaneous fear ran across his saggy, shriveled and wrinkled face. Instantly he took out some herbs,powder,asked for an iron container and burnt those in it after moving it all over my body.While doing all these, he was chanting some odd "mantras" too.

Though I did not have much faith in his activities but somewhere in my mind, Nissim Ezekiel's poem,"The night of the scorpion" was trickling. Sometimes more than scepticism and rationalism, age old beliefs help-with this notion I let him to do his job.After a while he sprinkled few drops of holy water on me and asked me to close eyes and beg forgiveness to the mistress of the house,who was no more, for unknowingly hurting her space of existence! WHAT????MY throbbing head throbbed more but I did as he said,my hands reaching out to some hundred rupees notes pushed inside my pillows."NO,NO MONEY","MY POWER WILL VANISH IF I TAKE MONEY",HE ANNOUNCED WITH PRIDE GLORIFYING HIS OLD FACE.


Nagina quickly made a glass of Indian "sherbat" with sugar and lime juice and offered him,which he gladly consumed and left my house assuring that from next morning I will be free from the bondage of pain.


MORNING OF RADIATING RAINBOWS


The next morning did come and believe or not all my ailments were doomed.I was able to walk,breathe without difficulties and live my life! Now though,still I would not advocate people to resort to such things BUT CAN ANYONE GIVE AN ANSWER IN MY CASE- WHERE DOCTORS FAILED A BABA SUCCEEDED.


INDIA,CERTAINLY IS A LAND OF AMAZEMENT WRAPPED IN LAYERS OF UNDUG SCIENCES!!!!

rashmi.


Rashmi Singh
Personality Development And Soft Skills Trainer
at New Delhi,India.
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Monday, August 9, 2010

BUT SEX WAS ALWAYS YOUNGER!

Sex Was Younger Always!!!

Rummaging through newspaper stack to see if anything important wasn't drifting as the "Kabadiwala" was waiting outside my house to get his,"valuable scrap",l happened to chance upon an article by Indrani Rajkhowa Banerjee in Sunday Supplement of Times of India,in Life Style  Section of Delhi edition,25th July ,stating that sex has gone younger.

Going through it as I am an avid reader, and start reading anything,anywhere which draws my interest ,I gaped foolishly at the  prestigious newspaper gloriously boasting the writer's naive and callous research on  current Indian generation's lifestyle  published under such a famous and reputed column!!!

Few names which were not to be disclosed, few incidents which had no authenticity, quotes of some odd Psychologists/Psychiatrist ,laced , peppered seasoned with flavor of sex ,exciting people out  of their wits  AND THE STYLISH ARTICLE WAS COMPLETE!!!

Sex according to the writer has gone younger but then she is under illusion-it was always younger but under wraps.The only thing which I agree is that now the present generation (but that too only in metros and we all know that without small towns India is incomplete.)is trying to be bold with their parents and trying to come clean in their relationships stating that marriage is not on the cards i.e. if in a relationship it does not mean they have to get married

Almost about twenty years back when I was in school I remember reading a love letter of one of my friends during lunch break with other class-mates,while she was out on the courts to practice basketball.We had quietly sneaked into the classroom , surreptitiously read her letter oozing out sheer passion and clandestinely  kept  the letter back again in her bag.But that whole night we all four friends who intruded her privacy could not sleep-not because we had broken some rules of morality as we were too young only thirteen or fourteen to think about all such things but because the words written in the wonderful letter were creating luscious webs in our minds.They had obviously necked,smooched and were planning to do more but the boy had to move with his parents to Mumbai.Now at least I don't think all such encounters even in those days resulted  in marriages .AND INDRANI HAS WRITTEN such things are now recent lifestyle emerging especially among teens ,aged fourteen or fifteen!!!

Another example is of our Bollywood actor Om Puri's sexy liason with his maid in fifties when he was only 14 or 15.This fact was put up by his wife who wrote his biography.In fact Om was traumatized by this leakage of his personal life! 

Shouldn't before writing flowery articles under lifestyle section,a columnist  like Indrani,gauge her responsibilities? And why to forget the five year old MMS clip which ruined the lives of two teenagers of a reputed school of Delhi, engaged in oral sex.

Moreover it is stated that teenagers these days do not take all such sex encounters seriously and it is as good as for them as for going for shopping -if it works it is alright, but if it doesn't they switch on to other encounters!Can I ask the lady then why so many suicides are taking place in which mainly their partners are blamed for torturing mentally and leading them to paths of death? Why even high profile models like Nafisa Joseph and Viveka Babaji in their suicide notes blamed their boyfriends!If relationships are like shopping,they could have easily shopped at other shops-why did they have to end their lives?
ON SEX lAWS:
http://www.avert.org/teens-sex-law.htm


As coming to the age of oral and vaginal sex,which she has been stated  by her as 18-19 years-I AGAIN DO NOT AGREE-about twenty years back too,I heard my friends discussing this aspect in a hush-hush manner.And if they wanted to do,they did! Only as I have stated earlier,it was kept under wraps, just like rapes which was committed even a decade before but people now are not ashamed at complaining about it and are seeking justice.It is natural that with the passage of time we will get broad minded but that doesn't mean that EMOTIONS AND SENTIMENTS DO NOT EXIST-SO ANY COLUMNIST BEFORE PRODUCING ANY JUICY COLUMN SHOULD CHECK THEIR RESPONSIBILITY AND SHOULD NOT TRY TO SELL THEIR COMMODITY BY EXCITING THE MINDS OF COMMON, SIMPLE PEOPLE OF INDIA.

rashmi. 


Tuesday, June 22, 2010

THE ROAD OF LIFE:The Unknown,Subconscious,Supernatural,Mysteries-Its Relevance And Our Personalities.

THE UNTOLD STORY

 Jack Finney's "Third Level"'s Protagonist Charley, one day suddenly ventures out in the third level of Grand Central Railway Station -The level which Charley and mostly all knew that  never existed as from ages there were only two levels from where people could board trains.But Charley does happen to bump into the third level and not only this he goes back almost a century.....This can be termed by others as his figmentation or fabrication of mind...But the things,currency,people whatever he saw and experienced there were not of his era. His Psychiatrist friend explained it as his "WAKING UP WISH FULFILLMENT"i.e. when sometimes we want to possess anything badly, we experience it live and almost as if it has happened.

THIS IS A REAL ACCIDENT WHICH I SURVIVED ON THE ROAD OF LIFE:

There are numerous such stories floating in our daily lives about supernatural objects,mysteries and the unknown.If you visit a Psychiatrist they will term it as a figmentation of your minds but many a times we have noticed NEWS CHANNELS AND MEDIA shouting out about the authenticity of such happenings,however mostly they say that the viewers have to decide whether to believe or not on such happenings-they do not take any responsibility.But Why then they are showing such shows and clippings.....Simply to increase their T.R.P. as they know such things inflame the emotions,feelings and minds of people not only in India but all over the Universe.


But there are thousands instance which sometimes force most of the literate,scientific,developed minds to go numb and boggled.THIS INSTANCE IS OF ABOUT EIGHT YEARS BACK.

I was at that time staying at Hazaribag,a beautiful.picturesque,scenic place in the State of Jharkhand.The place boasts of clear rills,waterfalls,hot springs,thick forests with tribal and straight forward people. Definitely it had animals too in abundance-from foxes, varieties of deer,bears, bisons, leopards ,tigers and the most cunning and the creepy ones were the venomous reptiles.Though born and brought up near the Ganges Plains I have literally grown among snakes and scorpions but the incident which I  faced in Hazaribag makes me to think about the stories of the jungle people-the KING COBRA taking revenge-BUT HERE THERE WAS NO REVENGE STORY-WHAT THE SNAKE CHARMER TOLD ME WAS "A STORY OF JEALOUSY" Believe it or not my house-ONLY MY HOUSE in the entire official colony was continually attacked by a particular SPECIES OF SNAKES-BUT WHY? ONLY THE"SAPERA" had the answer.The snakes  climbed the stairs and would turn only towards my house as if they knew, their destination!!!!!   We all were traumatized-traumatized to the extent that our lives had become an unknown existence............

FINALLY HE CAME



 
FINALLY HE CAME-YES, I AN M.A.,M.B.A, ALUMNUS  OF PRESTIGIOUS SCHOOLS- LIKE NOTRE DAME AND LORETO CONVENT HAD TO CALL HIM! I WHO ALWAYS LAUGHED AT SUCH HAPPENINGS HAD TO CALL HIM-YES I CALLED a shabby Snake Charmer or "Sapera"-His rickety structure shabbily clad with overgrown nails and hair baffled me how he can save me and the children of my house from the vicious sting hallucinating and endangering our very existence!Till now I think it was the mercy of the Gods that we were alive as the reptiles were making timed attacks, hiding in toilets, kitchens, entwining the legs of Study Tables etc...BUT LO! THE SAPERA gave me "jadi"(HERB) and asked me to tie it in a cloth piece and hang it on that particular door from where snakes were entering AND BELIEVE IT OR NOT THE MOMENT I TIED THE "JADI" THE ATTACKS WERE DOOMED.Our lives once again came back on normal track.This can seem a joke to some people but this happened in my life.Now  I  too want to laugh it out but sometimes a chill runs down my spine when I think WHAT IF THE SAVIOUR SAPERA HADN'T COME?I do not want to make you superstitious-In fact I too,am questioning the credibility of such things and want my readers to share their feelings and experiences! 




 
MOST FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
The most prevalent and common topic which draws interests of people of this planet is "If there is life after after death or not?"."Do supernatural objects exist or not?"."Is it true that souls are trapped in a mind swirling web of life and death and such souls haunt people from time to time". If I sit and narrate stories which I have heard-it will go on forever.....



WHAT DO RELIGION AND PHILOSOPHY SAY


Some Mythologies, Philosophy, Religion like HINDUISM STRONGLY BELIEVE IN LIFE AFTER DEATH, KARMA, ITS EFFECT ON OUR PRESENT AND FUTURE LIFE.What we are facing-whatever we are going through is all according to our deeds of our previous birth. The "deeds" of this birth decide our life in the next birth-Now this is also a kind of belief and faith-To believe or Not to believe is entirely upto the people concerned.



Here is an excerpt from the Blog "Life  After Death" by Bishop Alexander Mileant


This is one of the typical accounts collected by an American doctor-pediatrician Melvin Morse, published in his book Closer to the Light [7]. His first encounter with such an event of transitory death was in 1982 when he revived nine year-old Katherine who had drowned in a public pool. Katherine told him how, during the time she was dead, she met with a nice lady who called herself Elizabeth; this was probably her Guardian Angel. Elizabeth greeted Katherine's soul lovingly and talked with her. Knowing that Katherine was not ready to come into the spiritual world, Elizabeth allowed her to return to her body. At the time of this event, Dr. Morris' medical career had him working in a hospital in Pocatello, Idaho. The child's account had such a profound effect on a man who, until then, was skeptical of anything spiritual, that he decided to explore deeper what happens to a person immediately after death. In Katherine's case, Dr. Morse was especially astounded at the details with which she was able to describe what she had observed, both at the hospital and at her home, during the time she was clinically dead. Dr. Morse checked into and confirmed the accuracy of her "out of body" observations. It was as if she had been an eyewitness to the events that had transpired during the time that she was dead.

BUT DO SUPERNATURALS OR COMMONLY CALLED GHOSTS EXIST? WHAT DO PSYCHIATRISTS SAY?

SOME BELIEVE-SOME DO NOT.
PSYCHOLOGISTS say Ghosts,Phantoms,Supernaturals are all work of our brains and minds-no brain-no ghosts-It is the brain consciously or subconsciously which fabricates ghosts.

SUPERNATURALS-A TOPIC RELISHED UNCONSCIOUSLY.
We can not deny the fact that these topics and stories related are relished by people and draw interest of all. IN FACT FIFTY PERCENT OF THE BRITONS CLAIM TO HAVE SEEN A "GHOST" sometime or other in their lives.The Indians with their vast beliefs, thought, mythology are the worst sufferers.To us it is as real as life itself.

B.B.C. SAYS

Do you believe in ghosts?
Ghosts don't exist and are all in the mind according to a recent study by UK psychologists. A chill in the air, low-light conditions and even magnetic fields may trigger feelings that a presence is in a room - but that is all they are; feelings.
Hundreds of volunteers were led by researchers around two of the UK's supposedly most haunted locations - Hampton Court Palace, England, and the South Bridge Vaults in Edinburgh, Scotland.

SO BEFORE I CONCLUDE,I ASK MY READERS NOT TO BELIEVE IN SUCH EXISTENCES WHICH CAN DEFORM OUR PERSONALITIES FOREVER. HOWEVER I WOULD SURELY  ASK THEM THE FOLLOWING QUESTION AND WOULD BE VERY HAPPY IF I GET A REPLY OR ANY RELATED EXPERIENCE!

According to Psychologists and many others the haunting feelings exist but the ghosts do not - do you agree? Have you ever had any unusual, inexplicable experiences? Do you believe in ghosts? Please give your comments and vent out your feelings...

Take Care....................

rashmi.  
 

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Effective Communication Skill-Path To Success

 Effective Communication according to me is an important ingredient of success. Some are blessed with this skill by birth but some need to improve on it. Here is an honest post from my side to help those who desire to hone and polish this skill leading to their ever growing success and enhancing their personality.

 Effective communication is all about conveying your messages to other people clearly and unambiguously. It's also about receiving information that others are sending to you, with as little distortion as possible.

Doing this involves effort from both the sender of the message and the receiver. And it's a process that can be tinted with error,  messages improperly delivered by the sender, or misinterpreted by the recipient. When this isn't detected, it can cause tremendous confusion, wasted effort and missed opportunity.Communication is a very powerful instrument and to get across it honestly is extremely important..It can create a negative or positive effect,so it is highly desirable that the message intended for the person is delivered across positively without any distortion.


In fact, communication is only successful when both the sender and the receiver understand the same information as a result of the communication.

By successfully getting your message across, you convey your thoughts and ideas effectively. When not successful, the thoughts and ideas that you actually send do not necessarily reflect what you think, causing a communications breakdown and creating roadblocks that stand in the way of your goals – both personally and professionally.

Communication sometimes is your way of perception of certain things.An extremely wealthy man took his son to the country side to actually perceive what poverty is like.After spending a day and night there with a very poor family,the father thought the message that he is showering wealth on his son and that he is very lucky to have a father like him must have gone down well with the son but the message which he wanted to communicate was not taken as desired.The son after the visit told his father that the realization that how poor he was has now dawned upon him after this visit.He realized that "he had only one swimming pool whereas the poor man had a full river to him",..."they had only one dog but the man had four",...and so on.....So we see here a fine example of "miscommunication"

A person can anytime improve his communication skill if he has a positive attitude towards life and things happening around him The first prerequisite is "developing positive perception towards life".Many other things too comprise the ingredient of fine communication like 
1.feeling at ease while communicating .
2.choice of correct words and phrases.
3.proper body language i.e.avoiding unnecessary fidgeting of limbs or sending wrong signals.
4.reading novels,current affairs on internet or in newspapers,watching news.A well-informed person can only interact positively.
5.eye contact but not actually foolishly staring at the person addressed to. 
6.work on certain paper exercise before any speech execution.
7.no one is perfect,so don't be overburdened with the baggage of "feeling confident".
8.be your natural self and have confidence+faith in your aptitude and skill.
9.be open to criticism and take it in good humor-don't let criticism ruin your confidence.Remember there are always certain people around you who are jealous and want to pull you down.
10.AND THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE IS BE A GOOD LISTENER. 

Good and effective communication can be you key to success as well as an ambiguous communication can ruin you.So think twice before you open your mouth.Useless gibbering and and angling for appreciation can be dangerous to your career.Give respect to those who command it and be pleasant to those who don't.Being vicious and unnecessary sycophancy will lead you nowhere.Keep away from "disparaging words and attitude but at the same time don't be disparaged" Learn to manage your talent and send across your message pleasantly.Nothing is going to help you except your positive self esteem, positive perception of things in a given situation and harnessing the various opportunities strewn all around you.So have faith and develop effective communication with your will power.


rashmi.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Extra Marital Relationship-Is It Really Extra?

EXTRA MARITAL RELATIONSHIP-the word EXTRA attached to MARITAL RELATIONSHIP has played havoc in the past and is still doing so.We accept extra- "a little more" in everything in fact we want a little more for everything except in a marital relationship!A LITTLE EXTRA FLAVOR IS WELCOMED IN EVERYTHING GOING EXCEPT MARRIAGE!I BUT LET US STOP AND THINK-IS IT REALLY AND ACTUALLY EXTRA OR WE JUST KEEP ON IGNORING FOR OUR CONVENIENCES MAKING IT "EXTRA"!

The entire Universe is entangled or rather entwined into many unsolved questions.A flower when blooms is assured of its destiny i.e. it will bloom,intoxicate and finally meet its inevitable doom, it does not know that its fate is not so simple-before meeting its final doom,it journeys up and down the scale of "destiny"only to be plucked and embellish different occasions-from marriage to death-from temple to graveyard....

A woman when born is declared to grow up and take care of her entire family in the purest way.She is assumed as an epitome of piety,especially in India! But those who have designated this role for her have never ever thought of "the same line of living for themselves"! It the woman who has to shoulder the burden of piety to keep the society free of dirt and germs spreading like an epidemic-men go scot- free!

I have pointed towards a burning topic "Extra Marital Relationships" -Is it justified or not? And if it is there,shouldn't both parties come clean with it to give a "cleaner image"! Why does it happen after all? And if it happens, why do people hide it from their spouses? Why people are so hypocritic in accepting this fact that parallel relationships or  love encounters exist or happen...

So many questions are related to this serious topic that I too sometimes get confused but after working on this topic and coming close to many couples,I realized that it is not only men who are cheating their wives ,IF AT ALL YOU CALL IT CHEATING!,The wives too are straying BUT has anyone wondered why or whether "the straying" factor is a new trend or has it been always there but under wraps and the "recent boldness" to come clean in relationships has made people to turn their heads and give it a serious thought!

If we look back or go down the pages of history, we can learn something interesting from Jayadeva's "GeetGovinda".Radha was married and elder to Lord Krishna but still both of them shared a magical relationship and are worshipped by the entire Human Race.No one knows what became of Radha After Krishna left her-how she fend for herself.Did She have to undergo severe trials of the society as woman is always punished for such deeds or was she then too ,worshipped the way we worship her now? Nothing much is written or found in historical books or inscriptions about this.The only thing which we the Historians ,have relished is their period of love-no one tried to dive into Radha's heart!Like all broken relationship here too "waves of tears and sorrows must have been involved". The Historians actually never tried to look into this aspect of LOVE or extra marital relationship which blossomed wildly and widely,the perfume of which would keep on intoxicating the generations to come!

Lord Krishna's love for Radha is well known but did he ever think how she would have  survived after he left her...The only thing which is appreciable THAT HE DID NOT HIDE HIS LOVE TO A MARRIED WOMAN FROM THE WORLD AND GAVE HER A STATUS WITH HIM BUT here Krishna was unmarried..I wonder what would have been the situation if  he was married too... but in those days such relationships were was allowed and acceptable.He had thousand queens and so did most of his contemporary rulers and men--Polygamy was an accepted phenomenon! In fact I praise Krishna for pronouncing his profound love for his beloved who was not his wife and giving the relationship a sacred platform But Krishna was God-what would the common human being do in such a situation?
READ A LINK OF LOVE(KAMASUTRA)
http://living.oneindia.in/kamasutra/spheres-of-life/rasa-lila-of-lord-krishna.html 


Heart does not think and enter into a relation,it just barges into it without thinking the consequences which can be really be dangerous in today's time.


The children, they say are the worst sufferers in such love triangles or "philandering situations"-BUT I DIFFER-Children always have to leave their parents after a certain age anyhow and if emotional trust is provided to them by either of the parents and counseled to cope the situation in a mature manner,they really come out of everything very quickly an accept as well as adapt themselves to their situations.It is the elders who do not let them accept the situation by inflaming their emotions to take revenge from their spouse!! The party which feels cheated make children their weapons to gain upper hand in such situations-the children are mercilessly dragged into all this.Actually after speaking to many children over this issue, it was shocking that only to give mental support to their parents they became a party in such a tirade-Actually they want an amicable situation either way-In fact to live in a house where parents have abusive relationship or "non-caring attitude" for each other is even  more hated by them.

In most of the talked about divorces we have seen the woman has marched away gloriously with a "fat alimony" leaving the spectators gaping.And have you ever thought that why those straying too, never want a divorce after all-IT IS NOT that they do not want the family or friends to be hurt- but actually it is the comfort zone to which they are so accustomed prevents them from taking any harsh step.So sometimes both the parties we see very conveniently forgive and forget their spouse's mistake(if you think it is) as we have seen in the case of U.S. President Bill Clinton's .

But this doesn't mean that such encounters are going to stop-those who think so are foolish or living in a fool's paradise.The beauty lies in accepting this as another aspect of life and dealing with it in a mature manner.A spouse may force his/her counterpart to detach from a particular relationship but how can she/he determine about probably many other such relationships.


What is required is a proper code of conduct.Relationships are one's own lookout and how one can handle them.It does not mean that I am agreeing to illicit affairs and hooks-I only want to accept people that love can happen anytime and anywhere in life.When such situation arises one has to act tactfully.Separation is not always the solution.No one can give a proper solution or a definite suggestion.The person involved have to themselves adopt a way which can keep everyone happy including him/her. We live few days and those few days too without happiness can make our life a burden for us.Life moves on but happiness does not knock at one's door always-So make everyone happy but do not forget your happiness.
rashmi.