MAKING MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLE-INTERPERSONAL SKILLS-"WHAT IS IT"?
My Readers would definitely wonder, what actually has happened to me and what exactly the topic holds for them!'WHAT A VOLATILE TOPIC IT IS?'Would it be worth reading? To them I would like to say,"give a look then form your opinion?"
Lexicons, people and hundreds of different websites daily come up with different expressions meanings and audio-visuals of Interpersonal Skills! So many meanings-enough to leave anyone baffled, confused, perplexed amazed and leading them after all nowhere!
Whenever I am asked to speak on this topic I simply laugh it off or resort to some musings which might not at all be serious at times!
Communicating effectively,convincingly,charismatically oozing self confidence has become the latest trend which gives the requisite lift to our "LIFESTYLES" though it can however, sometimes strangulate the listeners! BUT SIMPLY TO BE IN THE CIRCLES OF LITERATES "they" wear an intelligent look on "their" faces!!! What not has been said and done but the stark naked truth is that even I sometimes though unwillingly, have resorted to "hardcore professional terms" with "worksheets", "feedback forms"etc..etc.. etc...
Now let us come to a "profession" which has been eyed with suspicion and negativity but which is using this skill so deftly from ages and ages to get millions of visitors daily!. Though previously "they" were mostly illiterates in the said profession due to their " birth factor" or were forcibly pushed into it!
It can be said "they" have even superseded "Management Gurus" in the their "trade"! If this is the trade they have been taught, forced into or chose on their free will- At least they have been honest enough to show the whole world their brilliancy in it! They have generated or catered to the needs of UNLIMITED SCAVENGERS IN UNLIMITED CITIES from Las Vegas to Portugal, Mumbai, Kolkatta and to many more glittering cities-cities that never sleep-cities which go on with its style,fashion,affluence,oomph and few "dumb people" (which probably includes me too) are trying to inculcate "interpersonal skills" in even "dumber people"-this really makes me to laugh!
This is a skill gifted to "them" most naturally even when there were no means of concrete communication-like postcards ,telegrams,cellphones, internet, emails ,fax etc.But nobody tried to learn this art from them as most of the time they were and are treated as malignant cell of the society and our bureaucrats, politicians, news channels and other eminent people DURING THE DAY TIME were and are wasting their time and energy to eradicate them from the society lest they would become cancerous! HOWEVER IN THE NIGHTS, THE STORY HAS BEEN ALWAYS DIFFERENT!!! Many times "such people" have been caught red-handed enjoying "their" companies unashamedly to their fullest!
Whether all this is a crime or not I'm no one to decide! CRIME is that when such people run away from this NAKED TRUTH during day time and don't look into the pains or sources of the pain, of the people in this "trade" which have brought them into this business. And instead during "DAY TIME THESE WHITE COLLARED PEOPLE" cover themselves under a quilt of "FALSE RESPECT"!
Sex sells and will sell, no one can stop or do anything about it.The age old "taboo" has millions of buyers every day and every night! But this doesn't mean that I am agreeing to this network which at times is murky, gloomy, pervert, abusive and filled with lechers or rather SCAVENGERS who are ready to tear apart soul and body of anyone-yes I mean anyone .For such SCAVENGERS "perversion" is their religion! Hence society as a whole has to be extra attentive of these SCAVENGERS as anytime "this pervert network" can show its venomous fangs and sting innocent people on the name of cleaning dirt from the society, by implicating false charges on them-AFTER ALL, THEY ARE SCAVENGERS, AREN'T THEY"? So you see how the network works!!!!!Before anyone close to you knowingly or unknowingly falls into this heinous , murky trap- get alert!!
Here I would like to applaud INDIA GOVERNMENT WHICH TOO HAS COME TO TERMS WITH AGE OLD TABOO "SEX"-THAT IS WHY SAFE SEX HAS BECOME AN IMPORTANT FEATURE IN THE RECENT CURRICULUM OF CBSE BOARD EXAMINATIONS "IN LIFE SKILLS" section and it is better for the parents too, to come to terms with it and develop a better communication with their children and inculcate positive values which really is a difficult task when in their CITY a certain INTERPERSONAL SKILL is flourishing"- with the help of ever multiplying SCAVENGERS!
Reverting once again to the ongoing topic,I do no want to malign anyone or take anyone's name here but my readers would definitely be knowing many such persons.I here, however cannot stop myself from mentioning a name selling like hot cake few days back- TIGER WOODS-BUT I REALLY ADMIRE HIM!! THE WAY HE HAS TAKEN UP EVERY THING IN HIS STRIDE IS COMMENDABLE! Every human being in his or her life is at times get drifted or allured! Don't we know, "to err is to human". One whose "acts" are out is a philanderer, coquette or a culprit and one whose follies are tightly secured in a sealed "ALLADIN' GINNIE'S BOTTLE" is a "saint"! Actually I must say Woods's Interpersonal Skill IS WEAK!!!! Or he realised, SILENCE IS THE BEST CURE! As sometimes silence holds more importance than "eloquence"! THE LADIES,HOWEVER, TURNED OUT TO BE SMARTER IN THIS ENTIRE EPISODE!!!They made money like hell.In fact his divorce too is up till now the "costliest"!(but the recent news,however is that Woods's wife is calling off the divorce-lets see what happens!)
But is anybody speaking about the million dollars he has given to the earthquake victims of Haiti!!!If at all someone speaks, will say surely that he did only to cover up his image and make it straight!!!Imagine a wife not wanting to touch her husband but willing to touch rather grab his million dollars after divorce! Now this is my view-I do not want anyone to abide by or agree to it.One thing which I like most about my country is "Freedom of Speech and Expression"!which has made me to sit at my desk and put my up views so freely!
Talking of Interpersonal skills, let us take a more simple example of renowned characters "BRUTUS" and" ANTONY" from Shakespeare's play "JULIUS CAESAR". Can anybody deny Antony's charisma of oratory and convincing power? He was so impressive that his speeches not only made the Romans to go against their "idol", Brutus but the mob themselves set their CITY Rome ablaze, threw their own children in fire but avenged Caesar's death and "fall"! Did Antony ever visit any "coaching center" to learn "oratory skills-correct choice of words and refrains?", which even defeated the legend "Brutus's views" who was held in high esteem by the Romans!! Caesar's death was avenged by a mesh of powerful words used correctly and timely by Antony whose tongue worked as fuel in inflaming and instigating the mob!
Now let us leave and keep away all examples. Shouldn't Interpersonal skill be cultivated with little efforts with one's own strong will? I am not suggesting that one should not take help of Trainers, Coaches, Teachers but unless one has the grit, will power and enthusiasm to try, no one can hone or polish their skills-not even the person best at it! And once Interpersonal skill is shown-courage comes naturally-courage to brave and fight against all odds and evens in life.....enough courage to show these scavengers their real and true places.Shouldn't we all join hands and vehemently oppose the SCAVENGERS who slyly and cunningly flourish in our cities under false cover of respectable persons!
So we see how SEX in our CITIES is flourishing and SCAVENGERS are roaming about freely-without fear! So it is high time now we come to "certain terms" and be comfortable and make others comfortable respectively.AND YES SCAVENGERS CANNOT BE ONLY A MAN,IT CAN BE A WOMAN OR A WHOLE NETWORK-SO COME TO YOUR SENSES, AWAKEN YOUR MIND, BODY SOUL AND FIGHT AGAINST IT!
(started writing on 18th Jan-finished by 25th)