'Power of Mind' by Rashmi

Monday, January 18, 2010

Sex , City , Scavengers And Interpersonal Skills!


My Readers would definitely wonder, what actually has happened to me and what exactly the topic holds for them!'WHAT A VOLATILE TOPIC IT IS?'Would it be worth reading? To them I would like to say,"give a look then form your opinion?"

Lexicons, people and hundreds of different websites daily come up with different expressions meanings and audio-visuals of Interpersonal Skills! So many meanings-enough to leave anyone baffled, confused, perplexed amazed and leading them after all nowhere!

Whenever I am asked to speak on this topic I simply laugh it off or resort to some musings which might not at all be serious at times!

Communicating effectively,convincingly,charismatically oozing self confidence has become the latest trend which gives the requisite lift to our "LIFESTYLES" though it can however, sometimes strangulate the listeners! BUT SIMPLY TO BE IN THE CIRCLES OF LITERATES "they" wear an intelligent look on "their" faces!!! What not has been said and done but the stark naked truth is that even I sometimes though unwillingly, have resorted to "hardcore professional terms" with "worksheets", "feedback forms"etc..etc.. etc...

Now let us come to a "profession" which has been eyed with suspicion and negativity but which is using this skill so deftly from ages and ages to get millions of visitors daily!. Though previously "they" were mostly illiterates in the said profession due to their " birth factor" or were forcibly pushed into it!

With the passage of time however the scenario has changed. Then they were called "prostitutes"-after a little while "sex workers" and now of course "Escorts"-Giving "style" and "oomph" to the same work, say modernizing the same element!!! Or one can say packaging the age old ingredients in a new more vibrant,tantalizing,illuminating "wrap"!!!!

It can be said "they" have even superseded "Management Gurus" in the their "trade"! If this is the trade they have been taught, forced into or chose on their free will- At least they have been honest enough to show the whole world their brilliancy in it! They have generated or catered to the needs of UNLIMITED SCAVENGERS IN UNLIMITED CITIES from Las Vegas to Portugal, Mumbai, Kolkatta and to many more glittering cities-cities that never sleep-cities which go on with its style,fashion,affluence,oomph and few "dumb people" (which probably includes me too) are trying to inculcate "interpersonal skills" in even "dumber people"-this really makes me to laugh!

This is a skill gifted to "them" most naturally even when there were no means of concrete communication-like postcards ,telegrams,cellphones, internet, emails ,fax etc.But nobody tried to learn this art from them as most of the time they were and are treated as malignant cell of the society and our bureaucrats, politicians, news channels and other eminent people DURING THE DAY TIME were and are wasting their time and energy to eradicate them from the society lest they would become cancerous! HOWEVER IN THE NIGHTS, THE STORY HAS BEEN ALWAYS DIFFERENT!!! Many times "such people" have been caught red-handed enjoying "their" companies unashamedly to their fullest!

Whether all this is a crime or not I'm no one to decide! CRIME is that when such people run away from this NAKED TRUTH during day time and don't look into the pains or sources of the pain, of the people in this "trade" which have brought them into this business. And instead during "DAY TIME THESE WHITE COLLARED PEOPLE" cover themselves under a quilt of "FALSE RESPECT"!

Sex sells and will sell, no one can stop or do anything about it.The age old "taboo" has millions of buyers every day and every night! But this doesn't mean that I am agreeing to this network which at times is murky, gloomy, pervert, abusive and filled with lechers or rather SCAVENGERS who are ready to tear apart soul and body of anyone-yes I mean anyone .For such SCAVENGERS "perversion" is their religion! Hence society as a whole has to be extra attentive of these SCAVENGERS as anytime "this pervert network" can show its venomous fangs and sting innocent people on the name of cleaning dirt from the society, by implicating false charges on them-AFTER ALL, THEY ARE SCAVENGERS, AREN'T THEY"? So you see how the network works!!!!!Before anyone close to you knowingly or unknowingly falls into this heinous , murky trap- get alert!!

Here I would like to applaud INDIA GOVERNMENT WHICH TOO HAS COME TO TERMS WITH AGE OLD TABOO "SEX"-THAT IS WHY SAFE SEX HAS BECOME AN IMPORTANT FEATURE IN THE RECENT CURRICULUM OF CBSE BOARD EXAMINATIONS "IN LIFE SKILLS" section and it is better for the parents too, to come to terms with it and develop a better communication with their children and inculcate positive values which really is a difficult task when in their CITY a certain INTERPERSONAL SKILL is flourishing"- with the help of ever multiplying SCAVENGERS!

Reverting once again to the ongoing topic,I do no want to malign anyone or take anyone's name here but my readers would definitely be knowing many such persons.I here, however cannot stop myself from mentioning a name selling like hot cake few days back- TIGER WOODS-BUT I REALLY ADMIRE HIM!! THE WAY HE HAS TAKEN UP EVERY THING IN HIS STRIDE IS COMMENDABLE! Every human being in his or her life is at times get drifted or allured! Don't we know, "to err is to human". One whose "acts" are out is a philanderer, coquette or a culprit and one whose follies are tightly secured in a sealed "ALLADIN' GINNIE'S BOTTLE" is a "saint"! Actually I must say Woods's Interpersonal Skill IS WEAK!!!! Or he realised, SILENCE IS THE BEST CURE! As sometimes silence holds more importance than "eloquence"! THE LADIES,HOWEVER, TURNED OUT TO BE SMARTER IN THIS ENTIRE EPISODE!!!They made money like hell.In fact his divorce too is up till now the "costliest"!(but the recent news,however is that Woods's wife is calling off the divorce-lets see what happens!)

But is anybody speaking about the million dollars he has given to the earthquake victims of Haiti!!!If at all someone speaks, will say surely that he did only to cover up his image and make it straight!!!Imagine a wife not wanting to touch her husband but willing to touch rather grab his million dollars after divorce! Now this is my view-I do not want anyone to abide by or agree to it.One thing which I like most about my country is "Freedom of Speech and Expression"!which has made me to sit at my desk and put my up views so freely!

Talking of Interpersonal skills, let us take a more simple example of renowned characters "BRUTUS" and" ANTONY" from Shakespeare's play "JULIUS CAESAR". Can anybody deny Antony's charisma of oratory and convincing power? He was so impressive that his speeches not only made the Romans to go against their "idol", Brutus but the mob themselves set their CITY Rome ablaze, threw their own children in fire but avenged Caesar's death and "fall"! Did Antony ever visit any "coaching center" to learn "oratory skills-correct choice of words and refrains?", which even defeated the legend "Brutus's views" who was held in high esteem by the Romans!! Caesar's death was avenged by a mesh of powerful words used correctly and timely by Antony whose tongue worked as fuel in inflaming and instigating the mob!

Now let us leave and keep away all examples. Shouldn't Interpersonal skill be cultivated with little efforts with one's own strong will? I am not suggesting that one should not take help of Trainers, Coaches, Teachers but unless one has the grit, will power and enthusiasm to try, no one can hone or polish their skills-not even the person best at it! And once Interpersonal skill is shown-courage comes naturally-courage to brave and fight against all odds and evens in life.....enough courage to show these scavengers their real and true places.Shouldn't we all join hands and vehemently oppose the SCAVENGERS who slyly and cunningly flourish in our cities under false cover of respectable persons!

So we see how SEX in our CITIES is flourishing and SCAVENGERS are roaming about freely-without fear! So it is high time now we come to "certain terms" and be comfortable and make others comfortable respectively.AND YES SCAVENGERS CANNOT BE ONLY A MAN,IT CAN BE A WOMAN OR A WHOLE NETWORK-SO COME TO YOUR SENSES, AWAKEN YOUR MIND, BODY SOUL AND FIGHT AGAINST IT!
(started writing on 18th Jan-finished by 25th)

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Emotional Compassion Versus Unknown Abuses


Being just a "HUMAN" is not enough- One has to become "HUMANE" to have eyes which can see in this biting cold,the chilling wind which every night,lurking slyly comes as messenger of death,to those sleeping on the footpaths,parks,under any half constructed building or a tree clutching tightly a stray dog for warmth who is more compassionate than any other rich man swirling past in their big cars,gifting a dusty cover ...for them life means more than hygiene..more than those bill boards mocking at the whole system to keep the environment free of certain diseases!This is INDIA..didn't they know when they were putting up such ironical hoardings!

C'mon,"They" knew very well but a kind of system has to be devised-a system has to exist but how much we all get out of it is a mystery and definitely history will stand to vouch for the same! Overburdened with poverty sharing meals with dogs and cat is a stark naked truth of the 'wretched Poor' of this country.Many want to shy away from this reality whilst some USE, very effectively and cleverly "this state of deprivation" to make their "fat" purse "fatter"!

Looking at the 'skyscrapers' one wonders "Is the so called EMPIRES, of so many GREEDY PEOPLE really a thing to be reveled at?"Probably Yes, because development is inevitable,incessant and necessary. Moreover hasn't a Renowned Philospher,Herbert Spencer quoted "Survival of the fittest" i.e. he only survives who is fit and is able to win the race of life,say like snakes which eats most of its own eggs after laying....Now we have to think... Do we want ourselves to be identified with such cold blooded animals or a warm blooded human being? Which once again, another acclaimed Thinker, Aristotle has quoted as a "Rational Animal". I do not want to challenge their statements but isn't it ironical how can a Rational Animal survive and be the fittest because one who is "rational" at times will definitely be "Emotional" as he would possess "a brain" and not "a mechanized instrument" in his skull. I guarantee a man with a "throbbing brain" has to be emotional at times and an 'Emotional Man" can never survive amongst the Snakes. His emotions will unknowingly and accidentally will turn out to be such follies which will take shapes of rock-sized obstructions in the path of "said progress"!

The other day while watching television,sitting comfortably in my quilt,sipping coffee and waiting for the arrival of New Year 2010,I could not help thinking about those who might not even know "what a new year is"? For them EVERY DAY AND EVERY NIGHT is a race to be alive....the "survival of the fittest" whether it be for them slyly creeping and intruding properties, in which they have no access or again hugging a 'pig' or a 'dog' to keep them warm and alive..HAVEN'T THEY TOO DEVISED MEANS TO SURVIVE ON "THIS BEAUTIFUL PLANET" with "BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE MASTERING AMAZING TONGUE TWISTERS"!This indeed is a mock at all those who claim to be "humane" and close to "humanity" and that includes probably ME TOO! Sitting comfortably and thinking about the underprivileged is an easy way to show compassion but to venture out to lend a helping hand, in the biting cold with equally cold screeching wind is TRUE COMPASSION.

I do not want to be a "PHILOSOPHICAL GURU" and chide the human race I only want a few drops of nectar in form of compassion and affection for those who do not know the real meaning of being a HUMAN BEING...those sometimes hugging animals are closer to compassion and humanity than "those who sit in palatial buildings and formulate plans for such people".The other day while taking my routine walk early in the morning about 6:30a.m. I saw three children(their real photos, with their mother's permission is there at the start of the write-up), all girls aged about seven,five and one.I could not stop myself from asking their names because in this chilling cold,the elder one named "JYOTI" was carrying the youngest named "ANCHAL" Again this was a dire case of IRONY because Anchal means warm soothing covering of a woman's dress and here this 'anchal' to the youngest was provided by a seven year old tender aged child who herself needed love,care and affection!!They were all sisters and the middle one,named "KAJAL" informed me that since their mother had to go early in the morning to "Kothis" for odd works like cleaning,washing utensils etc hence they had to look after their baby sister..I felt ashamed of myself and I knew why.... because without engaging a domestic help even our lives do not run smoothly and we hardly are bothered to look at the stream of pain flowing beyond our luxury and comforts..wasn't this again a slap on the face of our system and government which puts hoardings 'banning child labor' and under the same hoardings such children either directly or indirectly like JYOTI are taking shelter from different shades of life!

I am not here to force my "thoughts" or "views" on anybody.I wrote what I felt like- what my soul wanted to write.....'Selfishness' is a human trait, present in everyone of us. But isn't 'compassion' too an inherent quality gifted to us naturally which we have unashamedly hidden under a quilt of MATERIALISM! What really needed, is "A few drops of compassionate nectar" and the entire race of all behaviors would come to peace!