HONOR KILLING HONORED....U.K. OR INDIA..PURIFYING PUTRID KARMA??

A FORGOTTEN STORY.....AARUSHI OR BANAZ -HONOR SNATCHED BEFORE HONORING???
U.K. OR INDIA IT IS THE SAME!

LONDON-A father, was found guilty of murdering his own daughter, Banaz Mahmod,20.,as she was IN LOVE WITH WRONG PERSON. Banaz , brutally slain on his order was strangled with boot lace,stuffed into suitcase and buried in the back garden.

The most horrifying part of the story was that SHE WAS RAPED AND TORTURED before the gruesome  act of "PURIFYING HER SO CALLED PUTRID KARMA".

Source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-469553/Two-hour-rape-torture-honour-killing-girl-murdered-family.html

ISLAM DOES NOT ADVOCATE HONOR KILLINGS:

Let us understand the meanings of these lines "There is absolutely nothing in Islamic literature or jurisprudence that advocates, sanctions or even allows honor killings".So those practising these brutal acts should be openly condemned!
Source: http://ahmadiyyatimes.blogspot.com/2009/12/honor-killing-in-islam-no-not-at-all.html
 

ANOTHER EXAMPLE WHERE "MEN WERE BUTCHERED":
 

THE INDIAN SCENARIO- AARUSHI'S MURDER -IS IT A CASE OF HONOR KILLING?
Though India has progressed and has become a leader in many zones in Global Front but if peeped  inside the minds of those dwelling in villages and sometimes cities too,a glaring shocking truth can be seen crouched stealthily inside! Many couples were and are being butchered mercilessly,because those controlling the strings of their lives were/are not happy with their true love leading to marriages! However many a times the Govt. has promised that such happenings would be put to a dead end and the butchers would b punished but all in vain.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Death-penalty-for-honour-killing/articleshow/6140768.cms

According to Wikipedia,an honor killing is known as the murder of a member of a family or other members,due to the belief,that the victim has brought DISHONOR to the family or community.But it is seen that such killings are mostly directed towards women or girls.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_killing

The end of 2010 saw a closing of the most discussed murder of the decade,"AARUSHI MURDER CASE" in India, as the most Respectable Investigating Institution  C.B.I. ,believed that since  now i.e after the passage of almost about two years,no subtle "threads"  or evidences were found so the case must be packed not to be reopened again!DEFINITELY A CALLOUS ATTITUDE OF THE MOST PRESTIGIOUS INVESTIGATING AUTHORITY OF INDIA!"

I wonder what the Parents might have felt AT THIS ATTITUDE OF C.B.I.' s .I really wonder when  ,after the "hungama" of so many N.G.O.'s and the Opposition, how the Parents might be feeling when the fingers are pointed to them once again.Since the matter is sub judice,I think I should refrain myself from passing any judgement but as common people,we do have full right to know what is going on!

RECENT JUDGEMENT:(7th January,2011)
"The CBI’s closure report in the Aarushi murder case submitted on Wednesday claims it was the 13-year-old’s father, Dr Rajesh Talwar, who killed her."

BUT C.B.I. HAS STILL TO FIND SUBTLE EVIDENCES AGAINST THEM.
LINK:
http://www.hindustantimes.com/Father-prime-suspect-in-Aarushi-murder-case-CBI/Article1-644987.aspx

NOW LET US WAIT,WATCH AND SEE WHETHER AARUSHI GETS JUSTICE OR NOT? 

  

A HEART WRENCHING TALIBANI TALE OF KHAP PANCHAYAT:THE "GOTRA (SUBCASTE)TALE!"

Khap Panchayat of Haryana has demanded to amend the HINDU MARRIAGE ACT.They want addition of the provision in the act to ban the marriage that takes place between the boys and girls of same "gotras".Actually their sole "TALIBANI" MOVE is to defend those who are responsible for the murder of Babli and Manoj.The duo married,though of the same "gotra".Karnal Sessions Court has awarded death sentence to five and one life sentence! BUT LET US SEE WHETHER THESE BUTCHERS ARE HANGED OR NOT!

 http://thinkahead.net.in/same-gotra-marriage-ban-%E2%80%93-khap-haryana.html

HERE IS AN EXCERPT FROM MY ANOTHER POST:http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/08/rage-of-fallen-angels-satan-snatches.html

When a group of tribal elders becomes the judge and jury and passes a sentence of gang rape against a young girl to shame her family, the outcome can only be inhuman. In June this year, in remote Meerwala village, 610 kms from the capital Islamabad, young Mukhtiar Mai wept and pleaded for mercy when she heard the verdict. But the 18-year-old was dragged into a mud hut and gang raped, while a crowd of a few hundred stood outside.

VISIT:

http://www.boloji.com/wfs/wfs084.htm

TILL WHEN...till when this act, attitude ,mentality is going to be a slag heap and destroy the lives of millions! The serious issue is this how can these murderers roam scot free in the society!Till When..Yes Till When the girls have to pay the price of "false honor?"And if at all there is something wrong i.e if at all the said person is going on the wrong path, isn't it the duty of the Parents to counsel them! DEATH PENALTY IN TALIBANI STYLE IS NO SOLUTION  IN THE NAME OF "PURIFYING PUTRID(ROTTEN) KARMA(DEEDS OF PREVIOUS AND THIS  LIFE)AND THE CONTINUATION OF THIS HEINOUS ACT IS ONLY A BLOTCH ON THE FACE OF "SAID PROGRESSIVE HUMANITY"!

READ A BEAUTIFUL STORY OF LOVE WHERE THE FEAR OF GUNS DID NOT LET THE ROSES OF LOVE TO BLOSSOM: http://rrashmi211.blogspot.com/2010/06/tryst-with-destiny.html

 rashmi.

RAGE OF THE FALLEN ANGELS-SATAN SNATCHES SEX!

RAGE OF THE SATAN
REAL MEN DO NOT RAPE!

"RAGE OF THE ANGELS", very beautifully etched the mesmerizing Jennifer Parker's , character. The power she had to win over and achieve her defined targets, though foul play too was involved!

But with the advancing time, I feel all such characters are now buried in pages of "bestsellers"  AND "RAGE OF THE FALLEN ANGELS" is  ruckusly ruling. The once angelic minds of people  are in grip of venomous SATANIC FANGS .Women and girls are still, continually, tormented, tortured, traumatized and bullied for their boldness.
read how friendship saves from bullies
http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/02/confidencecamarderie-and-cleopatra.html

Newspapers these days are abuzz with incidents which in any case can tear minds and souls of people apart but the present genre has definitely no time to delve in the dark graves burying in itself skeletons of shameful , lurid , pervert , inhumane tortures of lechers - heinous mental and physical killers , biting , shredding , pouncing  flesh of the woman they desire,subsequently charring their mental demeanor !Just as it happened of Iraqi Torture by the U.S. ARMY

"SNATCH  IF YOU DON GET", This ideology is currently prevailing amongst the common people-whether it be a job, position,exams and so on.Cut throat competition is making people bleed,driving them to the brink of madness.AND THIS COMPETITION SOMETIMES MAKES ITS  PRESENCE IN THE FIELD OF SEX TOO-IF "THEY" DON'T GET THE DESIRED, "THEY" "SNATCH",forgetting a moment of pleasure not only ruins the victim's entire life but their  own lives too as "sins never go unpunished" !
READ A STORY OF SEXUAL MANIAC: http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/12/insanesexualsickening-cross-bow.html 

Sometimes RAGE OF RAPE is purposely directed towards a community by other communities or "upper hands".Here is a raging example taken from the link below


http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/28454-operation-rape-sikh-women-shudhee-karan/

"But unfortunately, many Sikh women were also the target of the bloody thirsty Indian Security forces. Sikh women were ruthlessly tortured, not only physically but also mentally. They were used as tools to force the surrender of Sikh fighters who were their relatives and also as a means of humiliating families. When Sikh women were arrested with their husbands, the husbands were often forced to watch the rape of their wives. Rape was used as an interrogation tool"

RAPE AS AN INTERROGATION TOOL was even used during Iraq war,this cannot be denied.For more information visit:


http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/04/rape-and-rage-humans-or-animals.html

RAPES INCIDENTS HIDDEN:Many a times rape incidents are put under covers as the family doesn't want to put their "family in shame and tarnish their image"!The victim may languish in pain but VISIT A HEART RENDING REAL STORY OF MARITAL RAPE AND TORTURE:
http://rrashmi211.blogspot.com/2009/08/oceans-of-loneliness-standing-near.html

Here is another excerpt which highlights that sex is snatched not only for pleasure but is exhibited on women and girls to thwart them as well as their family for any offence which "they" think is objectionable!

When a group of tribal elders becomes the judge and jury and passes a sentence of gang rape against a young girl to shame her family, the outcome can only be inhuman. In June this year, in remote Meerwala village, 610 kms from the capital Islamabad, young Mukhtiar Mai wept and pleaded for mercy when she heard the verdict. But the 18-year-old was dragged into a mud hut and gang raped, while a crowd of a few hundred stood outside.

VISIT:

http://www.boloji.com/wfs/wfs084.htm

There are thousandths of such examples which is murkier than muck where friends too betray trust. INCIDENTS WHICH PROVE WE STILL ARE ANIMALS AND NOT HUMANS. INCIDENTS WHICH MAKE OUR HEARTS NUMB AND MAKE US BELIEVE IN "THE RAGE OF THE FALLEN ANGELS". SO AS HUMANS LET US COME FORWARD PUSHING OUR LURID THOUGHTS AWAY ,REMOVING THE BLOTCH FROM THE FACE OF HUMANITY !

Another Way Of Protest Is Like This:
SOURCE:
http://www.commondreams.org/headlines04/0719-03.htm  

READ SHOCKING TRUTH OF DATE RAPES AND DATE DRUGS:
http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/12/dating-rapesa-simple-truth-of-date.html 

Sometimes people resort to other unfair thoughts too Read
 http://shimmeringbutterfly.blogspot.com/2010/12/bed-buddies-or-friends-with-benefits-is.html


rashmi.

Extra Marital Relationship-Is It Really Extra?

EXTRA MARITAL RELATIONSHIP-the word EXTRA attached to MARITAL RELATIONSHIP has played havoc in the past and is still doing so.We accept extra- "a little more" in everything in fact we want a little more for everything except in a marital relationship!A LITTLE EXTRA FLAVOR IS WELCOMED IN EVERYTHING GOING EXCEPT MARRIAGE!I BUT LET US STOP AND THINK-IS IT REALLY AND ACTUALLY EXTRA OR WE JUST KEEP ON IGNORING FOR OUR CONVENIENCES MAKING IT "EXTRA"!

The entire Universe is entangled or rather entwined into many unsolved questions.A flower when blooms is assured of its destiny i.e. it will bloom,intoxicate and finally meet its inevitable doom, it does not know that its fate is not so simple-before meeting its final doom,it journeys up and down the scale of "destiny"only to be plucked and embellish different occasions-from marriage to death-from temple to graveyard....

A woman when born is declared to grow up and take care of her entire family in the purest way.She is assumed as an epitome of piety,especially in India! But those who have designated this role for her have never ever thought of "the same line of living for themselves"! It the woman who has to shoulder the burden of piety to keep the society free of dirt and germs spreading like an epidemic-men go scot- free!

I have pointed towards a burning topic "Extra Marital Relationships" -Is it justified or not? And if it is there,shouldn't both parties come clean with it to give a "cleaner image"! Why does it happen after all? And if it happens, why do people hide it from their spouses? Why people are so hypocritic in accepting this fact that parallel relationships or  love encounters exist or happen...

So many questions are related to this serious topic that I too sometimes get confused but after working on this topic and coming close to many couples,I realized that it is not only men who are cheating their wives ,IF AT ALL YOU CALL IT CHEATING!,The wives too are straying BUT has anyone wondered why or whether "the straying" factor is a new trend or has it been always there but under wraps and the "recent boldness" to come clean in relationships has made people to turn their heads and give it a serious thought!

If we look back or go down the pages of history, we can learn something interesting from Jayadeva's "GeetGovinda".Radha was married and elder to Lord Krishna but still both of them shared a magical relationship and are worshipped by the entire Human Race.No one knows what became of Radha After Krishna left her-how she fend for herself.Did She have to undergo severe trials of the society as woman is always punished for such deeds or was she then too ,worshipped the way we worship her now? Nothing much is written or found in historical books or inscriptions about this.The only thing which we the Historians ,have relished is their period of love-no one tried to dive into Radha's heart!Like all broken relationship here too "waves of tears and sorrows must have been involved". The Historians actually never tried to look into this aspect of LOVE or extra marital relationship which blossomed wildly and widely,the perfume of which would keep on intoxicating the generations to come!

Lord Krishna's love for Radha is well known but did he ever think how she would have  survived after he left her...The only thing which is appreciable THAT HE DID NOT HIDE HIS LOVE TO A MARRIED WOMAN FROM THE WORLD AND GAVE HER A STATUS WITH HIM BUT here Krishna was unmarried..I wonder what would have been the situation if  he was married too... but in those days such relationships were was allowed and acceptable.He had thousand queens and so did most of his contemporary rulers and men--Polygamy was an accepted phenomenon! In fact I praise Krishna for pronouncing his profound love for his beloved who was not his wife and giving the relationship a sacred platform But Krishna was God-what would the common human being do in such a situation?
READ A LINK OF LOVE(KAMASUTRA)
http://living.oneindia.in/kamasutra/spheres-of-life/rasa-lila-of-lord-krishna.html 


Heart does not think and enter into a relation,it just barges into it without thinking the consequences which can be really be dangerous in today's time.


The children, they say are the worst sufferers in such love triangles or "philandering situations"-BUT I DIFFER-Children always have to leave their parents after a certain age anyhow and if emotional trust is provided to them by either of the parents and counseled to cope the situation in a mature manner,they really come out of everything very quickly an accept as well as adapt themselves to their situations.It is the elders who do not let them accept the situation by inflaming their emotions to take revenge from their spouse!! The party which feels cheated make children their weapons to gain upper hand in such situations-the children are mercilessly dragged into all this.Actually after speaking to many children over this issue, it was shocking that only to give mental support to their parents they became a party in such a tirade-Actually they want an amicable situation either way-In fact to live in a house where parents have abusive relationship or "non-caring attitude" for each other is even  more hated by them.

In most of the talked about divorces we have seen the woman has marched away gloriously with a "fat alimony" leaving the spectators gaping.And have you ever thought that why those straying too, never want a divorce after all-IT IS NOT that they do not want the family or friends to be hurt- but actually it is the comfort zone to which they are so accustomed prevents them from taking any harsh step.So sometimes both the parties we see very conveniently forgive and forget their spouse's mistake(if you think it is) as we have seen in the case of U.S. President Bill Clinton's .

But this doesn't mean that such encounters are going to stop-those who think so are foolish or living in a fool's paradise.The beauty lies in accepting this as another aspect of life and dealing with it in a mature manner.A spouse may force his/her counterpart to detach from a particular relationship but how can she/he determine about probably many other such relationships.


What is required is a proper code of conduct.Relationships are one's own lookout and how one can handle them.It does not mean that I am agreeing to illicit affairs and hooks-I only want to accept people that love can happen anytime and anywhere in life.When such situation arises one has to act tactfully.Separation is not always the solution.No one can give a proper solution or a definite suggestion.The person involved have to themselves adopt a way which can keep everyone happy including him/her. We live few days and those few days too without happiness can make our life a burden for us.Life moves on but happiness does not knock at one's door always-So make everyone happy but do not forget your happiness.
rashmi.

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Love, Lust And Life

To my readers
Thank you for the overwhelming response.
The traffic of this blog surely points towards the "strong global fraternity"shared.
Thank you once again for the keenness shown for an Indian Writer.
This post is going to be  short and crisp.
I hope it will be liked .

What Is Life?

The Perception of life varies from person to person in different eras.Life holds many twisted,hidden as well as straightforward meanings. It is a crossword puzzle which sometimes is so easy to solve and at times remains unsolved for ages-the more we delve into it,the more lost we get. BUT WE ARE HERE TO STAY  AND NOT TO GET LOST.ONE SUCH SITUATION IS TO GET ENTANGLED IN THE MESH OF LOVE AND LUST AND LOSE A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP WHILE SEGREGATING THEM.

I am here discussing two major ingredients of life-love and lust.

The meaning of lust and love is very complicated and intertwined. LOVE surely is of many types i.e.love between siblings ,parents and their children, a ruler and his people BUT THE MOST COMMONLY DISCUSSED is the love between a lover and his beloved.It is generally believed that love is found on a platform which is poles apart from lust. YES TO SOME EXTENT IT IS TRUE BUT ONLY TO SOME EXTENT. Pure LUST is surely a thing commonly found in animals or  animals like humans BUT I have seen that animals who show their lust so vehemently too sometimes have strong affection for their partners.Actually projection of PURE LUST is a trait of an animal and humans who do so are after all not humans but REAL ANIMALS OF STONE AGE. SO WE MUST SHUN ANIMAL LUST-- NOT LUST SEQUINED WITH PEARLS OF LOVE.

BUT LOVE AND LUST CANNOT BE SEGREGATED,THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE-AGREE WITH ME OR DISAGREE. If two people are in love, respect and care for each other,exhibiting passion synonymous to lust is not at all vile.I simply cannot understand  how thinkers keep these two aspects on  different platforms.For them the idea should be to ban lust in objectionable situations-situations where humans cross their boundary to display forceful lust in forced situations-if the lust is not forced and exists between two people, it is an art of love.I agree love is divine-this means- its feeling is divine but at some point it takes the form of beautiful lust i.e.passion- which yearns for love and to yearn or crave for love is not wrong at all-the gods too would stand and vouch for it.WE ARE HUMANS-LETS LIVE LIKE ONE.LETS NOT FORCE OURSELVES ON OTHERS BUT AT THE SAME TIME DO NOT CURB THE PASSIONATE FEELINGS SYNONYMOUS TO LOVE IN YOUR BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP OTHERWISE AN ASPECT OF LIFE WILL REMAIN VACANT.

READ LOVEMAKING OF RADHA KRISHNA
http://living.oneindia.in/kamasutra/spheres-of-life/rasa-lila-of-lord-krishna.html


rashmi

Decision Making-Key Of Enriched Personality

VARIOUS ASPECTS OF DECISION MAKING

A lot has been said and written on PERSONALITY TRAITS and the FACTORS constituting
it.But as far as I perceive,the CHIEF KEY INGREDIENT of it is a PERSON'S ABILITY TO TAKE CORRECT DECISION AT A PARTICULAR TIME which can take him a step further on his desired path-because that particular time is never going to come back and benefit him in any way.

Decision Making is not a child's play and many significant writers and renowned people have presented their dissertations on the said topic involving lots of tongue-twisters and words which generally overflow the minds of common people.Here I have tried to highlight its importance in a simple manner which would surely help the readers.

The functional area of Decision Making is wide and has seen its vital place in World Wars, appeasement treaties, Economic Recessions and crises to release of movies,deciding schools for children,buying or not buying a car or house at a certain time and many more other areas which may at times seem insignificant but has immense impact on our lives.Here I am reminded of the novel "Name Of Rose" by Umberto Eco
published in 1980.Initially the publishers had expected its sale up to 3000 copies but in total 10 million copies of it was sold after publication.In U.S.itself about 2 million copies were sold!The success of the novel is till now,a mystery to the publishers as well as to the author himself.Eco says probably it was the right time,when the novel was published-had it been published ten years before or ten years
after,it would have BOMBED!So knowingly or unknowingly Eco's and the publishers decision to publish the novel at that particular time span was responsible for its overwhelming success!So, here, the correct timing was in a way responsible for the success of the said novel.

As we all know there are many key factors which moulds our decisions-these are situations,circumstances,incidents,grooming,wealth,right values and many more.Decision-making is a tough job even if it is made at such levels as to what dress should be worn by one at a certain place or function.It involves a meticulous analysis of all possible opportunities i.e. dresses and accessories available at that time.

My readers must be surprised to see me suddenly jump from the ongoing topic EMOTIONAL ABUSE. To them I would like to convey that I am not switching from the topic or deviating.In fact I am coming to it-what I am trying to bring out is the point that in situations of such abuses too,one has to take stern and immediate decisions,instead of dilly-dallying and finally coming to an undesirable end.If the person,here,chooses to stay with the abuser he/she should inculcate in himself enough mental courage to brave all kinds of situations and can make a recognizable place for himself in the society.This however is extremely difficult as constant berating hampers the confidence and the person feels "good for nothing." Hence to go ahead in life positively,one has to take the decision of his life within time.In doing so he might become an object of 'jest' but this is much better than leading a mentally paralytic life!In fact such decisions enhances the confidence of the person striving to come out of undesirable circumstances,and
ENRICHES his personality.

Correct decision at the correct time without being confused,bewildered,,matters a lot.Such clear decisions can only make one to move ahead in life despite of all kinds of obstacles and hurdles. Sometimes some decision can be risky too and requires lot of courage and positivity.In such cases right attitude,acumen and insight is needed and sometimes a DISCUSSION on the matter too helps. So before taking the BIG LEAP one should always organise his valid points WITHIN TIME and then proceed.As Robert Frost has beautifully said,"Two roads diverged in a wood,and I....I took the one less traveled by, and that made all the difference...."

Rashmi.
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